52. How Money Goals Are Related to Porn: There is Not Better Than Here

Dec 11, 2021

Money goals are like porn goals. Some lessons from 2020. Our relationship with money has everything to do with our thoughts about money. Danny shares about his work on money beliefs in 2020. Have you ever thought: “Once I make $X amount of money, I’ll be enough.” “Once I have $X amount of savings, I’ll be enough.” “Once I am out of student loan debt, I’ll be enough.” “Once I grow my business to $X in a year, I’ll be enough.”

We do this with porn too: “Once I stop looking at porn, I’ll be enough.” “Once he stops looking at porn, I’ll be enough.” We got this backwards. With money and porn. Developing the belief in your “enough-ness” regardless of the circumstances of money in your life. That’s what propels you toward your money goals. Even though Danny hit his financial goal for the year last week, it didn’t automatically help him feel “enough.” What a great reminder! We wanted to share this reminder with you. Thoughts that you are not enough are what keep you going back to porn. Developing genuine belief that you are enough, just as you are (with or without porn), is what leads you to dropping porn. There is Not Better Than Here. Join us for some other lessons from 2020.

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Lindsay and Danny Poelman are certified life coaches and are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Danny helps guys to stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. Lindsay helps women let go of the fantasy marriage that doesn’t exist and create the marriage of their dreams in real life.