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EP 64. Primary vs Secondary Trauma: What's more unseen?

Feb 06, 2024

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On Money, Being Seen in Groups, & Coaching Philosphies with Rachelle Siebke

January 9th, 2023

Working for yourself can bring out unresolved emotions and thoughts that question your worthiness and ability to make the right choices. For many of us, those choices comes down to financial awareness, making decisions for our businesses, and understanding the inner work that we need to do in order to heal and create the life we envision for ourselves. 

In this episode I sit down with Rachelle Siebke, Money Expert for life coaches and creative solopreneurs and talk about:

  • Her experience working with people who struggle with their financial decisions and how she was able to overcome that herself. 
  • How changing the way she looks at the CTFAR Model has taken her coaching to a new level.
  • The compounded impact of coming together in safe circles to see and be seen--and what she's found by being connected to a forever group of Trauma-Informed Coaches (Rachelle was on the Inaugural Retreat for ARTC Coaches last fall in the South of France).
  • We also discuss imposter syndrome and how that can impact the way we show up for ourselves and our business. 

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Using Tools to Self Soothe and Calm Relationship Anxiety with McKell Kristen

January 2nd, 2023

Being in a relationship is a very vulnerable thing to do and for many of us, anxiety can bring up difficulties even in the most loving and supportive relationships. Our different attachment styles can cause a disconnect in communication and overthinking or overanalyzing can cause rifts in those bonds.

 In this episode, your host Lindsay Poelman speaks with Relationship Anxiety Expert  McKell Kristen about her work in helping her clients 

  • understand their patterns of anxiety, 
  • understand past trauma and how it may affect their current relationships,
  •  and how to stop doubting their current relationship, and so much more.

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Family Coaching with Heather Frazier

December 27th, 2022 

There is no time like the present to improve our most important relationships in life. Emotional skills are not taught in school. They are not taught to us as adults. In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman sits down with current client in her Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification Program: Heather Frazier. Lindsay and family coach aka teen whisperer Heather Frazier discuss the dynamics of family coaching. They talk about the intricacies of unlearning behaviors and patterns and how to identify root causes for friction in relationships. 

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Healing from Religious Conditioning & Trauma: Part 2 of 2

December 19th, 2022 

Lindsay get's personal on this episode, perhaps more personal than she has in her entire life. Her personal work in this sphere has been some of the most vulnerable work she's done in her life and today, she will share details with you. In this episode Lindsay discusses:

1) Good girl syndrome

2) Differentiation

3) Trauma responses

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Healing from Religious Conditioning & Trauma: Part 1 of 2

December 13th, 2022 

In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman shares more what she's witnessed, after over 4 years of coaching women in betrayal trauma: the stark parallels of women experiencing betrayal trauma and people experiencing betrayal trauma in high- demand religions. Lindsay get's personal on this episode, perhaps more personal than she has in her entire life. Her personal work in this sphere has been some of the most vulnerable work she's done in her life and today, she will share details with you.

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VALIDATING OUR CLIENTS' GRIEF: PART 2 of 2

December 5th, 2022 

In this episode, Lindsay talks about grief, some myths about grief and what we’re missing, and helps you see that the more you understand about GRIEF the more you will be able to support yourself in pain, your family, friends, and for you coaches, and your clients! Tune in this week to discover more about:

💫 Grief is healing in motion

💫 Grief in coaching

💫 How to distinguish grief and trauma behaviors

💫 Safety and consent

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ONE KEY THING COACHES MISS: GRIEF ASSESSING AND PROCESSING Part I

November 28th, 2022 

In this episode, Lindsay talks about grief, some myths about grief and what we’re missing, and helps you see that the more you understand about GRIEF the more you will be able to support yourself in pain, your family, friends, and for you coaches, and your clients!

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[COACHING MYTHS] ROAD BLOCKS? IT’S NOT JUST YOUR MINDSET

November 21st, 2022 

Learning how to be aware of your thoughts and manage your mindset is one of the fundamentals of the coaching industry. Many coaches teach the idea that it is "just a thought" that you can taught to change. While this is a helpful tool for many, it is not the end all, be all solution for everyone. Humans are multidimensional and multifaceted beings, and the ways that our bodies react to certain events in our lives will vary from person to person. In order to be an effective coach, in any industry, we need to support clients into understanding their bodies. 

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How Misuse of the CTFAR Model Causes Us to Bulldoze Our Nervous Systems

November 14th, 2022 

If your body or nervous system isn’t on board when you’re choosing new thoughts to believe, the unconscious programming will, with time usually override those unsustainable affirmations you’re offering up. If we want to live that life of freedom, joy, openness, abundance, love, and peace, that comes with befriending our body, not ignoring it. 

And this is the approach we take in Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches. We’re developing out your relationship with YOUrself, with the language of your body. Learning about your UNIQUE PATTERNS of processing, thinking, manifesting, and healing. 

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[COACHING MYTHS] 100% Accountability, is this always a good thing? What are we missing?

November 7th, 2022 

Enter the rise of coaching. Now this may vary from person to person, and from certification to certification, but problems can come in and arise when you stick to one model as the answer  to all of your problems. It keeps people from setting boundaries when it is necessary to create safety, because they think the safety then need comes from more thinking than trusting their body and nervous system needs. It keeps people forcing what their deep deep knowing knows because the ego loves linearity and rationale.

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When clients get activated by words like Intuition and what it looks like to deepen your connection.

October 31st, 2022 

Having a connected relationship with your intuition is having a connected relationship with yourself. By listening and understanding to your intuition, you're honoring your body's needs at that moment. In this episode Lindsay Poelman offers ways to understand your intuition, how to foster a deeper connection with it, and why it's ok to not guilt yourself if you can't follow through on what your intuition is telling you at that moment.

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Breaking Free of the Hands that Feed You 

October 24th, 2022 

Relationships are often dynamic and consist of different power structures throughout our lives. As women especially, from the way we have been conditioned, we may sometimes even place power over our lives to those who don't even realize they have it. In this episode Lindsay Poelman offers ways to recognize the different power dynamics in your life and how to break free from what isn't serving your ability to live your truest, most liberated life. 

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Conditioned Religious Misconceptions that Do Damage

October 17th, 2022 

In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman talks religious conditioning and the misconceptions in them that do damage. Where humans go, problem follows, and this can be true of religious institutions as well. Lindsay dissects the different misconceptions of religious conditioning members may have to deal with and understand when they are learning to heal from their trauma.

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High Demand Religions and Trauma Responses

October 10th, 2022 

In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman talks about high demand religions and how they can contribute to trauma and trauma responses. Lindsay looks at this through the lens of her experiences from The Church of Jesus Christ Latter Day Saints, but welcomes all to listen and check in to see how it resonates or doesn't resonate with you.

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Forming a Connection with Your Client with Tina Gosney

September 21st, 2022 

In this episode, Tina and I talk about the different ways coaches can form connections with their clients and create a space for their clients to find answers and solutions that work for them. 

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Doing What is Best For Your Client with Overcoming Pornography Coach Sara Brewer

September 15th, 2022 

Certified Life Coach Sara Brewer is the host of the "Overcome Pornography for Good" podcast. Her main coaching focus lies in helping men take control of their pornography habit in her program "Overcome Pornography for Good". She opens up about her experience with conjunctive support and how that has amplified her ability to coach her clients.

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Real talk with Infidelity Coach Andrea Giles

September 14th, 2022 

Certified Life Coach Andrea Giles is the host of the "Heal from Infidelity" podcast, as well as mother to 12 in a big blended family. Her main coaching focus lies in helping women decide to stay or go after infidelity in her signature program, "Know in 90."

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Pro Social Trauma Responses Part II

September 8th, 2022 

This is Part 2 of a series of Why Trauma Responses are Pro Social. In this episode your host Lindsay Poelmans discusses what potential trauma responses can look like outside of the entrepreneurship realm.

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Pro Social Trauma Responses Part I

September 5th, 2022 

In this episode I talk about the different types of trauma responses and what they can look like for coaches and entrepreneurs. The goal of being able to identify trauma responses is to be able to create a safe, open, and welcoming space for your clients (and yourself) so that you are able to provide a safe, open, and welcoming space for your clients, and get them the help they are looking for.

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Looking at the world through a trauma informed lens with Jessica Farmer

August 29th, 2022

In this episode I interview RTC Alumn and marriage coach Jessica Farmer. Jessica talks to us about her work in coaching people whose spouses have a mental illness and how becoming trauma informed has benefitted her practice with her clients.

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BONUS: Trauma-Informed Coaching interview with Caryn Gillen and Kathy Kinghorn

August 25th, 2022

This is an interview Kathy Kinghorn and Lindsay Poelman had with Caryn Gillen about our Advanced Certification: Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches.

We discuss the importance of being trauma-informed...

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Why "Bridging the Gap" between coaching and therapy can be the best thing for the client

August 22nd, 2022

Join us in this episode where I interview Trauma Therapist Kathy Kinghorn. Kathy owns a wildly successful therapy practice in Lehi, Utah and has been training therapists for years.  We discuss...

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Why "Bridging the Gap" between coaching and therapy can be the best thing for the client

August 22nd, 2022

In this episode, your host Lindsay Poelman sits down with Kathy Kinghorn. Join us in this episode where I interview Trauma Therapist Kathy Kinghorn. Kathy owns a wildly successful therapy practice in Lehi, Utah and has been training therapists for years. We discuss...

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Why Being Trauma Informed is Inclusive

August 15th, 2022

In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman discusses why being trauma informed in inclusive. She talks about why it is helpful and inclusive to meet people where they are at, and how it can dramatically improve your coaching business when you take the time to learn how others process things in their lives differently...

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How to Become a Trauma Informed Coach with Lindsay Poelman

July 24th, 2022

Are you a coach who's afraid to use the "T" word (Trauma) on calls? Or you know of it and that it happens, but not much more? This podcast is for you.  As coaches, we could be not only unaware of our client's trauma responses, but our own during calls...

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