Are you a coach who is afraid to approach trauma?
Have you ever asked yourself these questions?
→ Can I say this word on a call?
→ Why aren't they making progress? Why aren't we seeing results?
→ Why are they so attached to that thought or story?
→ Where is the line between coaching and therapy, and how do I know when to refer them out?
→ What do I do if they get incredibly emotional during a coaching session?
These questions could potentially be related to your client experiencing some sort of trauma; whether that’s a big event from childhood, or something recent in their adult life. If you are afraid to say, approach, or even touch on the word “trauma,” this program is for you.
This is how it could be showing up in your coaching:
→ You aren't saying what your client needs to hear because you are afraid of triggering something.
→ They could be coming off as aloof, annoyed, difficult, or inconsistent on calls. You may not see why, while they may be feeling misunderstood or unheard.
→ You find yourself bending over backwards to 'please' them or help them, to no avail.
→ They're not making progress and keep circling around the exact same issue and you can't seem to get a workaround even with your best coach brain and incredible tools.
→ Your client isn't opening up on calls.
Strengthen your skills.
The wait is over.
→ Confident in your ability to coach anyone on anything because of your new knowledge and understanding of trauma. You will have the necessary skills to be able to handle a session when a client has a trauma response.
→ Incredibly comfortable doing your own deep processing, which will in turn make you better able to help your clients with their own connection. This Matters.
→ Gratitude for the knowledge you have around the human body and its ability to heal.
→ Self-assured in how you can support your clients in their healing from trauma.
→ Decisive and capable of having your own back; and a grounded calm knowing when it makes sense to reach out for your own support.
→ More ease in your coaching, because you no longer difficult clients. You know when it makes perfect sense to work with them, and you know when it's best to refer out.
→ In awe of the longer lasting relationships you now have with clients because you are seeing them in a way that they have perhaps never been seen.
→ A deeper, more all-encompassing awareness for yourself as a human, and what that gets to mean for your clients.
RELATIONSHIP TRAUMA CERTIFICATION FOR COACHES
What you will learn:
→ Know trauma, backwards and forwards
→ Know how trauma affects your body
→ The basics of trauma and its impact on our mental state
→ How to coach someone with trauma
→ How to know when to refer to an outside source
→ Proven techniques to assist clients with trauma processing
→ How to coach clients experiencing trauma from complex relationships
→ How to create a space for healing and processing with your client
→ When to use though work with a client, and when to use modalities
→ Understanding trauma in the brain
→ How to help your client create dissonance necessary for shifting and reframing traumatic memories
This is just the beginning.
The learning never stops. The skills gained will forever change the way you treat yourself, the way you coach, as well as your clients’ healing processes.
What it entails:
This is a 15-week program that helps you to DEEPEN your coaching skillset to bring your clients faster, desired results.
→ 12 Interactive Teaching calls
→ 10 Application/Processing calls where we will apply tools learned and review each other’s coaching as a group (in the most loving and safe way possible). We will also review submitted calls. It will be a SAFE ZONE.
→ 4 One on one calls with Lindsay to use throughout program.
→ Peer coaching practice sessions.
→ Optional: Get expert feedback on submitted coaching sessions.
Relationships are complex, and so is working through trauma from various relational circumstances.
We’re simplifying it.
What you will get:
→ Weekly group coaching with Lindsay Poelman and Kathy Kinghorn, with a 16 years of combined trauma experience.
→ Access to my Trauma Resource Page, including ongoing additions. You will have continued access after the program so you can stay relevant.
→ A private community with other like-minded coaches who are as committed to serving their clients as you.
→ After the program: Access to any ongoing workshops with professionals in the cutting edge of their field.
“I started coaching with Lindsay because her calm, loving manner drew me in. I knew she could handle with love and grace anything I told her."
I came to her having done a lot of personal growth, but wanting to go deeper on some lingering painful thought patterns that I couldn't quite shake. I am so glad I made that choice, and have re-signed with her because I love the work we do together. She is very wise, but never preachy about her wisdom. She puts the client in the seat as the expert in their own lives, and she facilitates (with great skill) the client's ability to find their own answers. Although I know Lindsay can coach on anything, I would recommend her to anyone who wants a safe place to heal from relationship pain, especially if that relationship is the one with yourself. I am so grateful to myself for taking that leap and working with Lindsay. She has helped me unlock so deep hurts, and let them go. I love her!
- Andrea Giles
“I am working through betrayal and learning to navigate decisions as I separate from my husband."
This work is affecting everything. I am standing up for myself in a loving way in conversations with my husband and family. It is making me more confident in my work as a coach. It is helping me to heal a wound and step into a new lifestyle in powerful confidence. And I am learning to grieve and be with myself in a powerful way.
“Coaching with you was truly a gift.
You came into my life at the precise moment I needed you!"
When I found you, I was struggling with finding connection in my marriage. I definitely felt the need to have my husband change in order to feel connected. Through coaching, I was able to learn that just that thought was making me show up in my marriage in a way that I had not intended. I felt like you were really compassionate and loving. I never felt like you were being judgmental or critical. I always felt like it was a safe space to just pour my heart out. I would end the sessions with optimism that I could look at things in a different way. Not to say that I never actually tried changing things, but the energy that I used to make change was very different.”
- Natanya Brown
“I was looking for someone to help me
get to the root of my thoughts and anxiety."
As a high performer and business woman, I knew that my relationships played a role in my success as well. My marriage was a touch rocky, and my thoughts were always swirling around my head. Everything felt unclear. Lindsay was able to give me tools and teach me methods to clear my thinking, embrace self care and self acceptance. It’s amazing how getting clear on your thoughts truly changes your surroundings and relationships.
Meet Your Coaches
My journey of intentional healing started when I learned that my husband had been lying to me about pornography use for a greater part of our marriage. I had just had my third child when he told me. With what I had been taught to think about pornography, what it does to families, this was devastating and traumatic. Within a week, my husband stopped working as a dentist due to panic attacks, debilitating anxiety, and depression that suddenly came to a head. He had become non-functioning in a matter of days. What ensued from there was both of us courageously (and humanly) seeking out the best professional help we could find. While I was recovering from my own betrayal trauma; I was learning to support a spouse with suicidal thoughts, paralyzing shame, trauma around childhood sexual abuse, and his own PTSD due to betrayal.
After processing and accepting my circumstance more fully, I found coaching—which propelled me into a forward focused state of empowerment. At the time there weren’t a lot of resources for people like me (and I would have killed to have a guide like me), so I became a coach.
Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), I have observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma.
This is why I have developed a Trauma-Informed approach to mindset work and relationships that take into account the nuance of being a human.
Understanding trauma is essential.
Because you can't handpick clients with 0 trauma, understanding trauma is essential to creating a healing and growth environment for your clientele. It is a basic need for every human to receive care from professionals who are trauma-informed.
I believe wholeheartedly that there is so much WE CAN DO to support people who may be experiencing trauma. There is a responsible way to do this, and I cannot wait to show it to you in my program.
I brought a colleague of mine, Kathy Kinghorn, on board as well to teach and share her insight during calls. We both see the value of the hybrid work that some view as coaching, some view as therapy, we see as both.
LCSW, CSAT Supervisor
Through Kathy’s 12 years of experience as a therapist, she saw the need for all humans to have witnesses to their stories—for everyone to have a safe place to learn how to heal from life’s challenges. This eventually led her to work with healing clients from physical addictions and betrayal trauma. Now, an expert in her field, she spends most of her time training other therapists. A constant learner, she avidly studies and integrates advances with neuroscience to develop her understanding of the human brain.
The arena of her focus brings up complex relational issues, including relational wounds for addicts, and for those betrayed. Setting up a healing environment for people to heal themselves and repair relationships requires experience, intuition, and willingness to learn.
Lindsay and Kathy see the power of coach and therapist collaboration and know that creating a bridge to support individuals healing from relationship trauma can change the entire trajectory of a client’s healing process. We recognize the importance and beauty of coaches and therapists understanding their roles—what they can do—in supporting clients with trauma.
What you need to know about trauma:
We are relational beings, and almost everything we experience in life has to do with relationships. Uninformed people tend to think that trauma only matters if it’s a big life event, either stemming from childhood or one altering event in adulthood. It is my mission to educate humans in this arena so we can stop being reductionistic, and responsibly learn the meaning and differences behind Big Traumas and Little Traumas.
A lot of trauma that humans experience, especially “Little T” trauma, is from the receiving end of another human. This can add complexity to true healing as humans navigate how to hold nuance for relationships while self-validating. I will show you how to create this space for your clients.
By the end of this certification, you will understand as a coach what you need to know to support your clients, with the added bonus of how to apply this in relationships.
What if you have trauma?
This isn’t a problem. Most, if not all of us, are carrying trauma because we’re human. During the program you’ll have the option to bring your “ONE BIG R” (relationship) to the table to heal from. Every teaching call we have will include application questions and ideas for you to consider as you navigate your “ONE BIG R.”
You’ll have me, Kathy, yourself, and a team of other loving coaches to support you here. Your “ONE BIG R” doesn’t have to feel ‘traumatic’ in order for you to bring it to the table. The tools we teach will make a difference either way.
Psst! Your “ONE BIG R” doesn’t have to be another human.
It can be about anything you have a ‘sticky’ relationship with: Money, Institutions, Specific Experiences, Yourself, etc.
As a coach I will show you:
→ How much you CAN do to serve clients experiencing trauma.
→ How to create an environment of safety that allows for all healing.
→ How to use your own intuition to guide you, knowing when to use the model with your clients, or when to go a different route.
→ How to teach your client to more deeply trust their intuition to accelerate their healing.
After the program:
→ You will be trauma-informed. You will be more confident in your coaching, your message, your unique gifts as a coach to offer this world.
→ You will be more connected to yourself and in-tune with your client needs.
→ You'll now have a SAFE community of like-minded coaches with similar visions as you.
→ You will receive a certificate with a logo for you to add to your coaching materials.
→ You will retain LIFETIME access to the landing page with teaching videos that are continually added to and updated.
→ You’ll walk away with an easy-reference workbook to use in your program with your clientele. We are constantly learning more and more about the brain, which means when our workbook updates, so will yours.