38. I Should Have Known BetterDec 11, 2021
We do it. Our wives do it. "I should have known better" seems like a helpful story. But it's hurting you more than you know. How to be less obsessed about making the right decision and more focused on making the best decision you can. When we bash ourselves for decisions we made in the past, we can unknowingly extinguish the confidence and trust in ourselves that we could be accessing now. Confidence and trust that would help you make better decisions now and in the future. We expect to be duped again. We buy into the idea that we must just not be cut out for this. We practice this story that our decisions were "not enough." It creates distress which can literally shut off the creative and problem-solving part of your brain. When we are willing to view our past selves through this new lens, it better allows us to do the best we can do at this time. Turn off the doubting and 2nd guessing. Turn on the creative and problem-solving part of your brain.
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Lindsay and Danny Poelman are certified life coaches and are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Danny helps guys to stop looking at porn and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. Lindsay helps women let go of the fantasy marriage that doesn’t exist and create the marriage of their dreams in real life.